I posted on Facebook, but I own these words, Zuckerberg.
ok, so a gay football player comes out. The guys worried about this say something like “yeah, but I’m going to be naked inn front of him, in the locker room.”
Ok. Let’s break this down.
First, sorry to break it to you, but odds are, there was ALWAYS some closeted gays in the locker room. So, if there is any harm to you in them “looking,” it has already happened. See? Don’t you feel better?
Second, if you think that they might, I don’t know, get attracted to you or something, and, following #1 above, it would have ALREADY happened. Have you EVER seen someone in the shower or locker room get an erection ??? No? Ok, so it is not a social space where sexual feelings get expressed.
Three, if you think they might, I don’t know, what, touch you/ Sexually assault you? Well, that is against the law, not conducive to team morale, and, in general, not a smart move for someone who wants to keep playing sports. So, while there are always some depraved heteros and homos, being gay does not mean your (always there but closeted) gay teammate is some uncontrollable sex fiend who is going to cause problems.
Four. Ok, so maybe your (closeted) gay teammate sees you and later fantasizes about you. Maybe. I am just trying to imagine the problem. Ok, well if you can’t see that as a compliment, then at least you can now know what it feels like to be objectified as a sex object like most females do. So, net gain: you can be more empathetic now.
So, in sum, if it causes you harm, it is cause your just hung up knowing she or he is gay. Any other possible concerns are BS.